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Communication in the Bedroom: Asking for What You Want

Knowing what you want isn't as easy as it sounds. Asking for it can be even trickier. That kind of honesty puts us in a vulnerable place, and opens us up to rejection, or to being shamed for our desires. We also have a lot of cultural baggage to work through. Women often get the message that wanting sex or pleasure makes them a slut (and that that's a bad thing) and men are led to believe they're supposed to magically know how to please women without asking or being told. This sets us up for failure, and for those reasons and more, many people never take the chance to open a dialog with their partner(s). But being able to talk about your wants and needs is the only way to get them met.

In this class we'll talk about ways to put yourself and your partner at ease, styles of communication, and specific examples of tools and phrases to try. We'll talk about ways to start the conversation and ways to incorporate communication into dirty talk. Not even sure what to ask for? We'll talk about some common fantasies you might want to try. We'll even have a chance to practice in class! (Participation is always optional.)

There will be time for Q&A. All genders, sexualities, and orientations are welcome.

About the instructor: Stella Harris is an author, educator, and coach who focuses on intimacy and connection. As a certified Intimacy Educator, she uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. She has presented classes for a variety of organizations including the Portland Leather Alliance, the Portland Academy of Sex Ed, Sex Positive Portland, and more, and has spoken at Portland State University, Reed College, and Pacific University. Stella is widely published in print and online, from erotic fiction to educational and lifestyle pieces on sex and kink.

Stella is working to build a world where everyone has the tools to explore their sexuality safely and free of shame. Learn more at www.stellaharris.net